“It was all in your mind,” a common phrase that most people around me usually say every time I tell them I am not okay. It is a phrase that builds up a lot of confusion in my head, making me unable to express my thoughts and feelings. It is a phrase that somehow invalidates what I am going through, particularly in this battle towards depression.
“You’ll get over it” is somewhat the same as the previous statement. It attempts to shift my mind into thinking that I am capable and mentally strong. It may not sound very comforting, but it gives me that tiny piece of assurance. Often, it gets into me, and I tend to believe it. However, I see it as something that people would tell me to get rid of the unwanted drama I am bringing in.
“I know what you’re going through” is one of the phrases I often hear, but I don’t want to. Sure, people know that depression is making me lose control. But who doesn’t? The statement makes me feel like there is no room for me to express my deepest thoughts and feeling because they already know what I am going through. But do they understand?
“Get over it” is the worst of all. This phrase invalidates my condition. It makes me think that I am not worthy of anyone’s time, attention, and effort. It makes me numb and unable to concentrate. It makes me feel more depressed and anxious. It makes me think that seeking help is not an option. It makes me feel alone.
These are quite a few things that I often hear from people who do not understand what I am mentally and emotionally dealing with. They only know depression, but they do not understand how it damages someone’s life. Fortunately, since I know I am not okay, I insisted on finding the best solutions for my psychological problem. That is where I held onto the best coping strategies that changed my depressing life.
What I did To Regain Myself
I Let Go Of Toxic People That Contributes More Damage To My Overall Health
One of the hardest parts of my journey to recovery is letting go of people I used to be with. It was a decision I thought I could never make sense of. I have this fear of being alone. I was allowed to be surrounded by individuals because I thought that was the most important thing to do during depression recovery. However, the more I engage with different people and their different opinions towards my condition, the more I feel suffocated. So when everyone around me became too demanding, insensitive, uncaring, and inconsiderate, I shut them off. I felt bad at first because some of them are close friends and family. But ever since I surrounded myself with fewer people, it all made sense. It became clear that choosing the right people who will stick with me during this exhausting recovery process is more empowering than keeping the toxic ones near.
I Expressed My Emotions Even If Others Do Not Entirely Care About It
Another thing I realized during the worse stages of my depression is that keeping your mouth shut will only make you feel even more alone. So regardless of others not wanting to hear me or not interested in what I am going through, I still decided to let them know. It is not because I wanted them to sympathize with me or anything, but because I want to remove the weight in my chest despite the consequences of people not minding. I realized that expressing my thoughts and feelings has nothing to do with other people’s reactions. It is about how I should not endure the emotional pain that ties me to a struggling mental state. At some point, I got a little scared that the method will bring me more uncertain emotions. But to my surprise, it became a way for me to focus on myself and not give a damn about what people would think and say.
I Seek Professional Help Despite The Fear And Hesitations Of Going For It
At first, I don’t entirely believe that counseling and therapy would bring me the solutions I needed for my depressive state. But despite the hesitations, I went through the process. The counseling and therapy sessions are not that perfect, but the key points of recovery are there. That is where I realized that there are so many things that I can do to manage this mental health condition. I realized that I am more capable of handling myself. I was surprised that I am almost near my recovery after considering some lifestyle adjustments. I became more empowered and self-aware. Seeking professional help helps me get through the times I can’t control myself, which I am truly grateful for.