Journey Towards Depression Recovery – Mental Health Counseling

“It was all in your mind,” a common phrase that most people around me usually say every time I tell them I am not okay. It is a phrase that builds up a lot of confusion in my head, making me unable to express my thoughts and feelings. It is a phrase that somehow invalidates what I am going through, particularly in this battle towards depression.


“You’ll get over it” is somewhat the same as the previous statement. It attempts to shift my mind into thinking that I am capable and mentally strong. It may not sound very comforting, but it gives me that tiny piece of assurance. Often, it gets into me, and I tend to believe it. However, I see it as something that people would tell me to get rid of the unwanted drama I am bringing in.

“I know what you’re going through” is one of the phrases I often hear, but I don’t want to. Sure, people know that depression is making me lose control. But who doesn’t? The statement makes me feel like there is no room for me to express my deepest thoughts and feeling because they already know what I am going through. But do they understand?

“Get over it” is the worst of all. This phrase invalidates my condition. It makes me think that I am not worthy of anyone’s time, attention, and effort. It makes me numb and unable to concentrate. It makes me feel more depressed and anxious. It makes me think that seeking help is not an option. It makes me feel alone.

These are quite a few things that I often hear from people who do not understand what I am mentally and emotionally dealing with. They only know depression, but they do not understand how it damages someone’s life. Fortunately, since I know I am not okay, I insisted on finding the best solutions for my psychological problem. That is where I held onto the best coping strategies that changed my depressing life.


What I did To Regain Myself

I Let Go Of Toxic People That Contributes More Damage To My Overall Health

One of the hardest parts of my journey to recovery is letting go of people I used to be with. It was a decision I thought I could never make sense of. I have this fear of being alone. I was allowed to be surrounded by individuals because I thought that was the most important thing to do during depression recovery. However, the more I engage with different people and their different opinions towards my condition, the more I feel suffocated. So when everyone around me became too demanding, insensitive, uncaring, and inconsiderate, I shut them off. I felt bad at first because some of them are close friends and family. But ever since I surrounded myself with fewer people, it all made sense. It became clear that choosing the right people who will stick with me during this exhausting recovery process is more empowering than keeping the toxic ones near.

I Expressed My Emotions Even If Others Do Not Entirely Care About It

Another thing I realized during the worse stages of my depression is that keeping your mouth shut will only make you feel even more alone. So regardless of others not wanting to hear me or not interested in what I am going through, I still decided to let them know. It is not because I wanted them to sympathize with me or anything, but because I want to remove the weight in my chest despite the consequences of people not minding. I realized that expressing my thoughts and feelings has nothing to do with other people’s reactions. It is about how I should not endure the emotional pain that ties me to a struggling mental state. At some point, I got a little scared that the method will bring me more uncertain emotions. But to my surprise, it became a way for me to focus on myself and not give a damn about what people would think and say.


I Seek Professional Help Despite The Fear And Hesitations Of Going For It

At first, I don’t entirely believe that counseling and therapy would bring me the solutions I needed for my depressive state. But despite the hesitations, I went through the process. The counseling and therapy sessions are not that perfect, but the key points of recovery are there. That is where I realized that there are so many things that I can do to manage this mental health condition. I realized that I am more capable of handling myself. I was surprised that I am almost near my recovery after considering some lifestyle adjustments. I became more empowered and self-aware. Seeking professional help helps me get through the times I can’t control myself, which I am truly grateful for.


Depression Counseling – Never Get Tired Of Trying To Get Better

At times, it is not easy to spot depression. There are too many factors that can contribute to its development, and some symptoms confuse it with other mental illnesses. Depression is a condition that most of us fail to understand, despite sometimes experiencing it firsthand. The difficulty of that particular scenario lies in the stigma that asking for help is for the weak. That is why most of us do not see many people express their emotions and thoughts due to fear of judgment, criticism, and rejection.


It is not easy to maintain an overall balance, especially when dealing with the emotional issues affecting our mental health. Depression, though we know how it functions and affects our lives, most of us still ignore it. Perhaps that is because we are used to hiding sorrow and pain. After all, we believe that what we are going through is not somebody else’s problem. That mentality often leads to a complicated situation leaving us in a devastating silent mental health battle.

With all the complications that depression can bring into our lives, one thing is certain. That is never to give up trying to get better. Many things can help us get rid of mental illness. It is only a matter of self-awareness and proper understanding. To begin with that, we should exert efforts in acknowledging the damaging symptoms, working our best to focus on coping strategies, and seeking professional help if needed.

Why Is There A Need To Address Depression?

The answer is simple. We need to address depression because it ruins our lives. It makes us feel incapable of so many things. It affects everything we do at school, work, and home. It ruins our focus and ability to complete tasks. It makes us irritable, exhausted, and excessively guilty over nothing. Depression influences us to commit destructive behaviors. Some of which are smoking, drinking alcohol, staying up late, not getting enough exercise, etc. It also makes us lose concentration and suffer from declined performance.

Also, depression destroys our ability to communicate and engage with people. That supports the habit of constantly isolating. It makes us feel unloved and unaccepted that we often pushed people away. It makes us completely unaware of our social actions, making us contribute only to small talks and vague answers to questions. Sometimes, we intentionally hurt people verbally. It makes us doubt others’ intentions often, even if sometimes we know if those are for the best. Depression influences our minds to focus on other people’s mistakes and disregard their efforts.


Depression also causes us to behave negatively towards ourselves. Depression builds insecurities that often stick for too long. It leaves us with an unrealistic low self-image that takes a toll on our self-confidence. It makes us pity ourselves up to a point where we no longer want to become a better person. It makes us feel weak and emotionally vulnerable. Depression contributes a lot to our anxiety and stress, and it holds on to our fears and doubts.

In some unfortunate cases, depression often makes us lie about everything, including our feelings. We often hide the pain through fake smiles and laughter. Depression is so intense that we sometimes end up harming ourselves emotionally and physically. At some rate, depression leads us to our doom as some of us commit suicide.

Never Get Tired Of Healing And Recovery

Depression is so negatively powerful that it can make us change a lot in handling ourselves and others. With this, we should realize that the condition is manageable as long as we know how to take care of ourselves. We must understand the importance of accepting the situation. That way, we can process things and easily make room for coping strategies and lifestyle changes such as:


  •  Practicing Coping Skills One At A Time. There is the need for focus to motivate ourselves to be better until we are halfway done. We must maintain the desire always to get better no matter what.
  • Having A Sense Of Accomplishments. One way to deal with mental health problems is by focusing on something we can control. We need to have a realistic goal to measure our capability, especially when we can only rely on ourselves for healing.
  • Developing Self-Appreciation. We may not easily turn off our self-judgment, but we can always put higher regard towards our self-compassion and self-worth. Thus, we need to deal with a thorough process of better self-awareness and self-understanding.
  • Removing Toxicity At All Cost. Sometimes, our overall problem lies with the toxicity we surround ourselves with. If we want to get better and heal mentally and emotionally, we need to eliminate toxic things, whether it involves our dream job, family, friends, and special someone.