How To Recalibrate Your Mental Health And Be More Hopeful For The Future

I used to be in love with Tyler. There was a considerable age gap between us (ten years), but it did not stop me from wanting to be with him. In the first couple of years that we were together, he was full of charisma and elegance. He seemed so different from the boys that I liked in the past.

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Source: pixabay.comUnfortunately, before our third anniversary, Tyler’s life hit a rough patch. The fall of his stocks in the market forced him to sell half of the company to anyone willing to buy it. He also had to let go of some employees and work double-time to accomplish his customer’s orders. Although those workers were willing to stay without getting paid much due to Tyler’s kindness to them over the years, he encouraged them to find new jobs.

During all this dilemma, I rarely saw Tyler. He was either cooped up in his office, bent over the accounting books, or driving a massive truck to deliver fresh meat to various restaurants. Even at night, whenever I asked if we could meet, he was always too busy thinking of ways to take his company off the ground again.

I missed Tyler during the three whole months that I only heard his voice. However, I understood why he wanted to focus on the company. He was a self-made man, you see. That was his bread and butter, and seeing it take a dip might have been too scary for him.

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Noticeable Changes

In truth, Tyler’s busy schedule did not become the reason for our breakup. I never got jealous of it or acted like a bratty girlfriend who needed his undivided attention. No, the reason was that his outlook in life started to change in those three months that we didn’t see much of each other.

I should have known that something was up based on the increasing shortness of his replies to me. Before the business problem came, whenever I asked, “How are you?” his response was always an entire paragraph. He was still like, “You wouldn’t believe what happened today, babe. I closed this deal that I had been trying to get for weeks. Then, after that, I…”

Somewhere along the way, though, when I asked the same thing, he would merely say, “Good” or “I’m okay.” I chalked it to exhaustion every time because he was indeed working from 7 A.M. until God knows what time. So, imagine how surprised and hurt I was when I received a text from Tyler one morning, telling me that he wanted to break up.

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The Heartbreak

The bitterness that I felt that day remained unmatched up to this day. After all the patience and understanding that I showered Tyler, he wanted to crush my heart – through a text, the biggest jerk move than a man could ever do.

I was livid, of course. I wanted to curse Tyler repeatedly and tell him how awful he was. However, my anger slightly melted when I called him and heard him say, “You deserve to be with a better man. I am a loser now.”

Man. How could you beat up a guy with words when he was already beating himself up too much? Even if I still had many things to tell Tyler, I kept my mouth shut and accepted the freedom he gave me.

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But before he turned his back to me, I said, “We may no longer be together as we speak, but you should let me help you recalibrate your mental health so that your views about the future could change.”

How To Be More Hopeful For The Future

Tyler didn’t want my help at first. It was expected because he just ended our relationship. But I told him to try the following to be more hopeful for the future:

Lower Your Expectations

Stop thinking that everything will go as well as it has been in the past. Things change, and there’s nothing else you can do but accept it. If you don’t, you’re only making your life difficult.

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Find Out Why Awful Things Happened

There will always be a reason why you experience awful things. However, it is often because you need to learn a lesson. Figure out what lesson you have possibly missed and understand how to fix your problems.

Look For A Hobby

It would help if you also did something else with your time. Working on the same things without rest will make you lose sight of your goals. Try reading, knitting, skydiving, or whatever fancies your interest.

Bottom Line

After a few months, Tyler came back to me to tell me that he followed my tips and that his mental health was more stable than ever. I couldn’t be happier for this man, and we became close again. Maybe – just maybe – we can be together once more in the future. One can hope, right?

When Depression Takes A Toll On The Family

 

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When someone in the family is depressed, the entire family is significantly affected. Depression causes irritability, which evokes disagreements among family members, which consequently destroys family dynamics. The negativity spreads among the members and ripples its pessimism in everyone. The self-isolation that breaks relationships and instills generalized feelings of neglect and denial. Ultimately, the whole situation is stressful and burdensome.

On the contrary, the family is a major source of comfort, cure, and love. Family members are crucial to proper acknowledgment and a treatment plan for a common yet debilitating mental health illness such as depression. Families are proven to be effective caregivers, whether they’re unwilling or willing to help. They strongly reinforce the emotional environment that the depressed loved one resides, thus making them agents of healing – or they may not.

Depression And The Family

A Harvard Professor named Nassir Ghaemi argues that it is not proper to diagnose depression without consulting the family. First off, many people, especially those with existing medical conditions and within both ends of the age spectrum, do not often acknowledge that they are depressed. They may also point these symptoms to other factors, which is why the insight of family members is truly beneficial. But ultimately, Ghaemi says it is significantly important for making prescriptions, as one has to know whether the type of depression is bipolar or unipolar. According to studies, half of the patients diagnosed with depression have no idea whether they are manic or depressive. It is the family members that recognize these symptoms initially.

There is also a need for continuous diagnosis. One depressive episode does not eliminate the possibility that a manic episode will develop as well, particularly those below 30 years old. The typical onset of bipolar disorder is a depressive episode, where the average age is 19. However, an initial manic episode occurs only after 25 generally. There is a greater risk for younger individuals to be diagnosed with a bipolar disorder.

 

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Standard antidepressants can hasten mania, and in these cases, it is crucial to inform patients and their family members about the manic symptoms. Professor Ghaemi stresses the importance of family intervention in the early detection and treatment of manic depression. When possible, patients come for a primary evaluation, he suggests that they bring their family members with them. He then asks them to call any time when they notice developing symptoms from their loved ones. Additionally, the approach of the family towards the patient’s medications can also make a difference in compliance and continuing illness. If the members are not agreeable to the prescription medications and the treatment plan, they are taught to deal with that. But ideally, the entire family should support the general treatment, especially playing a role in reminding the patient to take their medicines regularly.

The Concept Of Expressed Emotion

Undoubtedly, there is a vital need for the treatment of any type of depression. A reputable psychologist, David Miklowitz, created a treatment that focuses on the family, on the principle that family dynamics tremendously impact mood disorders. He explained the concept of expressed emotion, which he describes as a measure of personalities expressed by a caregiver concerning a mentally ill individual. This consists of hostility, emotional over-involvement, and criticism. All these create an environment of high expressed emotion, and this increases the incidence of relapse threefold.

Expressed emotion typically brings about a conflict between a family member and the patient, which affects the patient biologically. He may become hyperaroused, as seen often in imaging studies. The fear centers of the brain are stimulated when patients catch a family member talking about them judgingly.

Family-Focused Therapy

This type of therapy is one that Miklowitz devised specifically for families with bipolar patients, although it is currently also being used by unipolar patients. It is used to decreased expressed emotion by providing families about the whole gamut of depression and teaching them skills in problem-solving, effective communication, and increasing self-esteem. In the 90s, there have been studies demonstrating a significant reduction in the relapse rate of patients whose medical professionals were integrating family-focused therapy in their overall treatment programs. This, which Miklowitz refers to as psychoeducation, must be considered part of every treatment, especially those with intermittent mental illnesses such as depression.

 

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Yes, families play a vital role in helping a depressive patient go through life with fewer stress factors and triggers that might make him more miserable than ever. Families do have a tremendous impact on depression. This is why mental health professionals agree that the family should always be involved in the diagnosis and treatment plan of depressive and manic patients. In a way, they ‘make or break’ the prognosis of a family member suffering from depression.

 

 

 

Are You Having A Mental Breakdown? (Pandemic And Mental Health Awareness)

Perhaps you find yourself in a moment of mental distress due to this global health crisis. There are so many things you want to do. You feel anxious about bad things that have been going on lately, and your thoughts are filled with a lot of what-ifs. You have this feeling of loneliness that you don’t honestly know where it came from. You find it hard to concentrate and focus on the better things in life. There is an emotional burden that you can’t seem to shrug off. Well, that’s what a mental breakdown feels like. Some unwanted feelings progress, while others experience it suddenly. Sometimes, it causes you the inability to perform the daily task due to the overwhelming feeling.

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Isolation

Social distancing is one of the safety measures that keep you away from getting infected. However, if you find yourself avoiding people and often wanting to be alone, that’s different. There is a thin line between giving yourself an alone time because that is perfectly normal in most instances, especially when things around you becomes too much to handle. But according to some experts at BetterHelp, constant isolation may be a sign of a mental breakdown, especially when you often choose to avoid social interaction, including texting, chatting, and talking to other people.

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Absent-Mindedness

This whole pandemic situation is terrifying, and there is no doubt that uncertainties can bring a lot of negativities. So if you find yourself caught up with your thoughts, maybe you are having a mental breakdown. Mental distress can cause you to think a lot and make you preoccupied with unwanted thoughts. sometimes, when you think it is just part of daily stress, it is not. Usually, it is not healthy because it can impair your critical thinking and sometimes affects your daily function. In some unfortunate instances, it can cause other health issues such as the inability to sleep and eat.

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Depressive Symptoms

Being locked up in your home for quite some time can cause an emotional burden. That’s because everything seems too familiar that there’s no room for you to develop yourself in a variety of ways. Sometimes, you experience losing interest in things you once used to enjoy. Apparently, that may be a sign of mental breakdown. In some instances, the symptoms can be indicative of a change of mood. Usually, you often get too irritated without any reason, and you feel uncomfortable even in your comfort zone.

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Paranoia

Understandably, this pandemic issue causes paranoia. But when you overthink that you become paranoid over getting an infection, you might be suffering from mental health issues. Paranoia builds up when you have these irrational thoughts and constant anxiety-related beliefs. The developing symptoms of this mental condition indicate that you are under a severe level of stress. In some unfortunate cases, your paranoia can make you excessively cautious about your hygiene. Thus, you find yourself unnecessarily washing your hands, putting sanitizers too much, and disinfecting things every other minute.

Panic Attacks

Mental breakdowns are a period of intense psychological stress associated with depression and anxiety. Experiencing panic attacks serve as a warning sign that your mental health is deteriorating. But it is essential to note that not all panic attacks can damage you in an instant. Some cases of this mental illness may increase its risk whenever it gets mixed up with other forms of mental health issues. These include clinical depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, and so on.

Anxiety and stress are inevitable, especially this time of the global health crisis. However, it shouldn’t have to be the reason for you to disregard your mental health. If in case you feel you are having a mental breakdown, please reach out for help. Always take care of your overall well-being.

Coping Strategies We Need In A Pandemic Situation Like This

In a stressful situation that the world is currently experiencing, all of us feel the same way. `We are all anxious, frightened, and depressed with the Coronavirus outbreak. But it shouldn’t have to stay like that. Yes, we are in a lockdown situation, but we need to do something to regain our self-awareness. We have to stock it all to keep a closer touch with ourselves. Good thing there are options that we can do to save us from the emotional and mental torture of this pandemic uncertainties. Here are some of BetterHelp‘s suggestions on the effective coping skills we need.

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Reading – To keep our mental and emotional state intact, the coping strategy we need to consider is reading. It can help us in attention diversion. Meaning, instead of keeping negative thoughts lingering in our heads, reading allows us to imagine positive things through the contents of the book.

Writing – It is a coping strategy that proves in reducing stress, anxiety, and depression. Along with our creativity and imagination, writing can be an excellent method to keep us focused. It helps us think about the good things that are happening right now despite the global health crisis. It draws attention to realization and reflection.

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Exercise – Moving our body regularly not only lowers blood pressure, but it also boosts our mood. A simple workout that lasts for 15 to 30 minutes a day can honestly make a difference. Not only for the physical but to emotional and mental as well.

Watching A Show – A television film or series is always a good option when it comes to reducing anxiety and depression. It is the most convenient way to get rid of negative thoughts, even for a little while. Aside from its instant diversion, it also allows become aware of our other emotions and avoid us from getting too attached to stress and anxiety. It is worth a try.

Play Puzzles – There is just something about playing puzzles that is so relaxing. The challenges somehow help in acquiring a better mood. Depending on the level of difficulties, puzzles’ mind-boggling challenges helps us avoid unhealthy urges. It dramatically enhances mental strength as well.

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Cleaning The House – If you find cleaning your house relaxing and enjoyable, do it. It is one of the best distractions that benefit overall health at the same time. It allows physical exercise from doing the chores; It promotes a better mood after seeing a clean surrounding afterward. And it enhances your ability to stay calm and relaxed. It is also a great way to take time off from using too much of digital devices.

Listen To Music – Music allows us to focus our minds on something other than the stressors and upsetting issues at hand. It promotes the expression of thoughts and emotions as well. Music helps in getting unwanted matters out of our heads by clearing thoughts. It affects our mood and changes our perspective of the situation.

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Talking To A Friend – Talk therapy is one of the practical methods that help us in dealing with mental illness. Despite the limitations of the pandemic lockdown, possible ways of communication such as texting, chatting, and talking on the phone can be beneficial. It helps us connect and vent to our emotions to someone. It reduces the feeling of loneliness and isolation as well.

The pandemic causes us certain conditions of mental illnesses that keep on growing daily. The worst part, we can’t seem to control it. We often get overwhelmed by the situation that we forget to take a second, even to consider understanding what we are going through. Slowing down and taking time to internalize all the sentiment can help us better see why we are in such a mental and emotional state.

Habits You Unknowingly Do That Trigger Depression

 

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Millions of people suffer from depression. Some are aware of their situation while others are not, and both instances are crucial in dealing with life struggles, even in the relationship. If you have depression, and you’re in a relationship, Michael Brustein, Psy.D. says  “If you feel like they are a good candidate for the long term, you feel you can get very close to them, and they’re someone you could potentially love, then you should tell them.”

Sometimes, you tend to do things because that’s what you know is right and that makes you feel better. But then at the end of the day, you still feel the pressure and stress because your depression stays with you that make it difficult for you to create better actions.

 

Here are the things that you think you’re doing right to avoid stress and depression but turn out to be a triggering factor.

 

Spending Too Much Time On Television

When you try to avoid depression by sitting on the couch watching your favorite movie too often, you give up the chance to decrease your tension, improve your sleep, and stabilize your mood. Therefore, your daily activeness makes a direct effect on your mood through psychological disruption. It creates an impact on your relationship because you tend to fall into the category where you limit your social activity with your partner.

 

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Too Much Browsing Through Social Media

It’s a regular habit that you tend to scroll through your social media accounts whenever it’s your free time. However, it affects your relationship because the more you spend time on your mobile phones or computers, you tend to take away the importance of doing other things with your partner. In some cases, there’s some information on the platform that can make you feel sad, gloomy, jealous, upset, and disturbed and that affects your emotional and psychological aspect.

 

Trying To Skip Meals

One way to deal with stress is by eating healthy and nutritious food, and when you skip meals, you don’t only allow your body to feel stressed but also deprive it of its right to achieve healthy and balanced nutrition. In other words, you only complicate the function of your blood sugar when you don’t have enough to eat, and that will make you feel sluggish, anxious, and irritated. That’s where you tend to have a higher state of depression.

 

Drinking Too Much Coffee

Surely, some studies promote drinking coffee because it helps in boosting your alertness and keep you away from stress. However, it doesn’t serve as a solution to get rid of depression for those people who are particularly sensitive to caffeine. Too much caffeine can give you an upset stomach, sweaty palms, shaky hands, and increased heart rate. Those things are not good when you are experiencing any type of depression. It somehow affects your relationship in a way that you tend to focus on simulations that you think are enough to give you reasons to stay positive, but they don’t.

 

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Avoiding Getting Enough Sleep

To feel healthy and energized, you need at least 7 to 8 hours of sleep. When you deprive yourself from having a good sleep, you only make your depression worse. From there, you tend to have mental dysfunction and low energy level that will hinder you to work on things positively. And when that happens, it affects your relationship because you develop uncontrollable mood swings that can somehow impact decision making.

Counseling psychologist Dr. Monica Cain said that “Physically, depression impacts energy levels. People sometimes feel very tired and want to stay in bed all the time.” This doesn’t even mean that the person is sleeping while in bed.

There are instances that depression is hurting your relationship and you probably can’t seem to notice it. It takes a lot of consideration to control a situation and sometimes, the things you opt to do that you know are helpful are the ones making it worse. So don’t hesitate to ask for professional advice from a healthcare specialist if you think that your depression is taking on your life. “If you suspect your spouse may be depressed, the most important action you can take is to help him or her get proper diagnosis and treatment. That can be difficult, though, since one of the factors of depression is hopelessness; depressed people tend to believe nothing will help. That’s why it’s important that you be persistent.” This was said by family psychologist Kip Zirkel, Ph.D.

 

Reasons Why Depression Is Dangerous In A Relationship

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When your partner suffers from depression inside a relationship, it’s time that you immediately look for ways to address the issue. When you don’t feel the need for assessment, it will guarantee to give you a stressful and failed relationship in the long run if you won’t pay attention. It will make things worse over time and leads you to the point of no return.

Marla Deibler, Psy.D. explains that “Those who struggle with depression tend to isolate themselves from others and it is not uncommon for them to reject help. Therefore, it is so important for loved ones to support those in their lives who are struggling with depression.”

What Can Depression Do?

“Some days you feel well, and other days, darkness envelopes you. You feel achingly sad, or you feel absolutely nothing,” according to clinical psychologist Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.

Depression can change everything up to the point that it takes away all the genuine things in your life. In some cases, it alters your partner’s personality produces negative qualities in him that are harmful to both of you. Eventually, it can also affect you in significant ways as well by putting pressure on everything you do for the relationship. There’s no instant remedy for this kind of mental illness, so there’s a need for assessment, consideration, patience, and adjustment.

“There’s this saying in the industry that depression can be contagious — not in the traditional way, of course — but sometimes when you’re with somebody who doesn’t want to do anything and is always feeling low and down, and speaking about negative things, it can be hard to keep up your own healthy self-care,” according to Clinical psychologist Gemma Cribb.

  • Denial – Depression can cause denial in a relationship. When your partner feels an intense emotional struggle, he might ignore the fact that he needs proper assistance and consider it as an excuse to justify the negative behaviors he does and will do in the future. It will be hard for him to acknowledge the importance of both of your development.

 

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  • Distrust – When your partner experiences a lot of emotional turmoil because of depression, he tends to create ideas in his head that causes argument in your relationship. He suddenly develops trust issues about the things around him and begins to question the importance of commitment, the value of affection, and even your capability to love. He becomes insecure about the future of your relationship.

 

  • Rejection – It is one of the vital problems that you may face whenever your significant other suffers from depression. The mental condition makes your partner lose his interest in everything, including you as well. He then tries to push you away out of his life and isolate himself from anything that can drastically affect his emotional and psychological well-being.

 

  • Sensitivity – When your spouse or significant other is depressed, he becomes pessimistic. Everything around him doesn’t feel or seem to look good. He avoids criticism as much as possible because he doesn’t want to feel emotionally beaten up by anyone’s words or advice. He takes everything seriously and sometimes, even the slightest out of nowhere comments becomes unnerving and damaging for him.

 

  • Irrationality – Depression is a serious state that can make your significant other lose himself. He can get to the point where he would think of you as an enemy and doesn’t want to be with you anymore. In worst cases, he can end up creating decisions that he would regret after. His mental conditional can push him to become unreasonable and unpredictable at some point.

 

  • Stress – Since there’s a psychological and emotional problem accompanied by depression, stress becomes present in the relationship. It helps the purpose of the mental disorder to ruin your loved one’s cognitive state and affect his overall health. It causes him to break down, feel pain, get anxious, and have sleep disorders, among others.

 

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Depression is something that you should not ignore because once it starts to get in your relationship, it is sometimes hard to get it out. So before you end up losing the one you love, make sure that you immediately find ways to get rid of the mental disorder once and for all.

 

Can You Handle Your Depression Alone? (Unspoken Words Of Marriage)

 

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Many people often experience depression in a relationship, and they don’t even notice it sometimes. It causes a lot of complication in marriage because couples tend to feel the pressure when it comes to decision making. In most times, they get preoccupied with a lot of stress that’s why they become less interested in finding ways to overcome their marital issues.

“When one spouse is depressed, a marriage is depressed,” according to Fran Walfish, a relationship psychotherapist.

Life With Depression

Depression is something that you can’t instantly take out of your life. It requires a lot of effort before you can finally say that you’re over it. Sometimes, even if you think you’re not affected, and you don’t find the situation alarming, the people around you may feel differently. The signs and symptoms turn more evident after a couple of weeks (even days), so you may feel exhausted, gloomy, irritated, agitated, and anxious about everything. It may also come to the point when you behave differently and won’t have the energy to function normally.

 

It Affects Everyone

You may think that depression can close its box on you alone, but the truth is, it affects everyone including your partner. The people around you feel the intense pressure of the mental disorder because of your actions toward them. “Many people are living with a spouse who is depressed and are suffering because of it,” says John A. Lundin, Psy.D. Depression can be frustrating and difficult for a spouse to know what to do.Sometimes, you won’t notice that you’re genuinely trying to push your significant other away. You become irrational and out of control and that’s something that they can’t seem to handle most of the times. When it comes to your married life, depression takes everything away from you. As the condition continuously stays untreated, you become a different person. Well, it’s not your fault why there’s a sudden shift in your personality because it’s the psychological effect of the mental illness that harms the function of your brain, making you think and act differently compared to your usual.

 

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Seek Help

There are times that you may feel the need for isolation and that’s okay. However, you still need to consider making the right choice and personally ask for help. Depression can harmfully damage your life when you let it, so you need to be brave and firm enough to handle the situation. Use every help that you can get from people around you and don’t stop chasing for possibilities of a well-deserved mental and psychological development because, in the end, only you can create the necessary changes in your well-being.

 

Don’t Push It Too Hard

“Depression diminishes your ability to connect with your partner and creates doubts about your union,” as emphasized by psychologist Shannon Kolakowski, PsyD.

Trying to push your limits in understanding what depression is all about is also not helpful at all. You need to realize that there’s a need for internalization. You have to know yourself better for you to be able to address the mental illness in a less stressful way. From there, you can slowly try altering the things that trigger your condition and become aware of the things that you perhaps need and don’t need to do.

 

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No one said fighting depression is going to be easy. However, with proper knowledge of what the mental condition can do to you, you can have an idea of the kind of life you’ll want to avoid. And with the help of your significant other, you’ll have better reasons to stay focused on getting better.

Marriage 101: Let’s Talk About Depression In A Relationship

 

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Depression is a mental illness that hinders a person to function normally. When it comes to a relationship, it influences couples to treat each other differently. It can either get them closer to each other when they tend to understand the situation or create complications when the couple ignores the signs. When a relationship causes anxiety, we are groomed to believe our relationship anxiety is the problem. After all, anxiety can strangle love, suffocate it, tear it apart, leaving most of us to believe that relationships and anxiety simply don’t mix,” says Alicia H. Clark, PsyD.

Road To A Better Understanding

When you are in a relationship with a depressed person, or you are the one who is experiencing the mental illness, it creates drastic changes in your psychological, spiritual, behavioral, and emotional well-being. And when couples think about it as something draining and upsetting, they become aware of their capabilities in handling stressful events in their lives. Somehow, it helps them to understand themselves better because it gives them enough reason to fight for the ones they love. “If you feel like they are a good candidate for the long term, you feel you can get very close to them, and they’re someone you could potentially love, then you should tell them, Michael Brustein, PsyD.

 

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Its Connection To Failure Of Marriage

On the other hand, the main reason that makes couples end up with divorce is due to their lack of understanding of things when it comes to depression. They need to stop thinking about the other person’s mental condition as their responsibility because they can’t do anything about it. However, that doesn’t mean they need to stay away from their loved ones just because they can’t seem to handle the tension. Though the mental condition is something unworthy for some people, the person who is experiencing the psychological illness is having a different battle.

 

So Why Do We Complain?

We often complain about depression because it affects how we treat people. Our decisions can end up positive or negative depending on the intensity of the required approach. In some cases, we see it as something that can make us appreciate our strength in dealing with the situation. However, for those people who can’t seem to get out, they think that they are unworthy. Hence, they tend to motivate themselves to do the opposite instead of focusing on the things that matter in the relationship.

 

How Can We Overcome It?

Seriously, there are tons of ways that we can do to address depression in the relationship. However, not all of it applies to everybody. The solutions to the problems vary from one person to another. One way to deal with it is to know where it comes from and what causes it to flare up so we can gradually work our way through the step-by-step process of addressing it without stressing ourselves or hurting the people we love. Understanding your own role in a relationship, learning to sustain healthy relationships, and choosing to end (or not enter) unhealthy ones, are skills that can be learned but often take time and practice,” says Dr. Vince Berger.

 

The Power Of Experience

Even if we think we have all the knowledge that we need to address depression, there will always be a loophole especially when we are not the person who personally experiences the mental illness. We might say that we understand it very well, but it will still require us to feel and experience it before we can make a concrete judgment. We can’t base our decisions on assumptions because it will be hard for us to find solutions.

 

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In general, there are millions of people who are in a relationship that suffers from depression. Some of them are still ongoing, others ended it, and some are still undecided. So if you’re one of those people who suffer from depression or your partner may be suffering from it, you need to address the condition as soon as possible.

 

Steps In Addressing Your Depression (It Can Help Your Relationship)

 

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Depression is a mental state that often refers to an extreme sadness that takes out your energy. It affects your behavior and personality. Depression is not a static illness. There is an ebb and flow to symptoms that many non-depressed people misunderstand.” Says Deborah Serani, PsyD. You occasionally experience doing things that you don’t usually do and sometimes, it even gets in the way of how you treat yourself and interferes with how you handle your relationship. Therefore, it is essential that you know the steps for addressing your situation. Here are the ways on how to deal with your depressive disorder.

 

Know The Cause Of Your Emotional State – When you say that you’re depressed, you need to be specific. You have to determine your current condition and know what causes the depression that affects you as of the moment. From there, you can think of options on how to address the ongoing issue you’re dealing with because sometimes, due to overthinking that you’re experiencing a mental condition, you are just formulating an idea that you’re indeed in the state of depression even if you’re not. The fact is, despite decades of research into this question, scientists at the U.S. National Institute of Mental Health and research universities around the world still don’t really know the cause of depression.” says  John M. Grohol, PsyD.

 

Address One Issue At A Time – It’s understandable that you want to attain peace of mind and be yourself again. However, pushing yourself in simultaneously figuring out solutions that can address tons of your problems won’t help you. It will only add pressure to your emotional and psychological well-being. You need to address one issue at a time so you can control your behavior and emotions. You need to focus on one available result and cut down the number of your problems to get a reachable goal.

 

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Allow Yourself To Talk To People – When you are depressed, you attract the negativity that comes along with it making you feel that you are alone and unworthy. However, you need to stop doing it. Do not allow yourself to embrace isolation because it will only make things worse. Try to talk to people and open up about your condition. Let them know that you’re willing to change things and show them that you are trying your best to become the better version of yourself. Psychotherapy, or “talk therapy,” is a general term that refers to treating depression by talking through your triggers and responses with a licensed mental health professional.” says Katie Hurley, LCSW.

 

Do Not Be Afraid To Ask For Help – Gather strength from the ones you love and let them become part of your life. Don’t try to push them away because you know it will only hurt your feelings if you do. Ask them to be there for you and let them know how much they mean to you. Don’t let your mental state ruin your relationship with the people that are willing to stick with you in your battle with depression.  Allow them to witness you at your worst so they can be with you at your best.

 

Seek Professional Advice – If you think that you no longer feel in control of your mental condition, don’t hesitate to undergo therapy and treatment. Professional advice from a therapist will give you a chance to understand the things that you’re going through because their expertise will walk you through the process of recovery so you can allow yourself to become more aware of your capabilities when it comes to handling certain stressful situations.

 

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Don’t let depression define the kind of person you are and aim to become a better you. Addressing your psychological and emotional state can guarantee you to have a better working relationship in the long run.